It hurts to let go, but sometimes it hurts even more to hold on.

Why do why hold on to the things that hurt us? I think it is because we think they define us. In many ways our experiences are like the things we bring back from vacation – a key chain, that blanket, or maybe that gorgeous new jewel. We carry experiences with us, like souvenirs, in the layers of our bodies like an onions. Deep through our outer layers, in our connective tissues and our joints, in our bones and our organs we can find all of our experiences good and bad. All of these experiences are caught in channels or meridians of energy and can if they are strong enough cause blockages. They can also cause moving energy or inertia and push you into who you’re going to become. The thing is if you hold,on you can ever let go and become who you are truly meant to be. There are no sources to confirm this fact. Only the knowledge experience brings and the street smarts that life eventually shows us do we begin to understand that it is with letting go of who we are that we become who we are meant to be.

It can be hard to say what is for certain right to to let go of. We have to listen to our inner most desires very carefully and we have to cultivate a good understanding of who we are as a person.  Who we are meant to be. It can take a person there whole life to let go of the things that are keeping them from becoming who they are meant to be. Our resistance to change has a lot to do with our resistance to letting go. We sometimes forget that stagnation leads to atrophy and atrophy leads to death. We have to keep moving. The most experienced of travellers know that to keep moving you have to let go. How do we let go? There is no exact way to tell. It is very personal to know how to let go and what to let go of.  Sometimes we have to remember that the answer lies within ourselves. Sadly, we move too fast and become over-loaded with tasks and thoughts and these things get away from us. But we have to keep moving to become who we are suppose to be, and in great irony it is in stillness we find the answers, and the direction to keep moving towards our future selves.

Who are you meant to be?

Sit quietly with yourself and find your breath. See if you can sit so quietly can hear the beating of your own heart. Make sure all distractions are put away. Listen to your heart and calm your breath. Do not judge what comes up. Do not talk about it. To not react to it. Sort through each through creating space and breath, by breath, find the thoughts that speak to your heart. Find the emotions that connect you to you deepest being and just let everything else go. Let it slide away effortlessly with the breath.
I recommend this practice for at least five minutes per day. There is no maximum time to which you can spend getting to know yourself.